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Colin and Val
© Vicky Laney

Val continued…
“Colin wanted to make me understand quite clearly, that his problem with erectile dysfunction had been long term.
He reiterated the fact that his inability to perform was nothing to do with how he felt about me, and that he had never been able to complete sexual intercourse in any of his previous relationships, and that we should be realistic in accepting that there were no short-term fixes with this particular issue. He told me, that by this stage in all other previous encounters, he had taken his leave swiftly, never to return or contact the poor women again and that the only reason he was still here, was that he couldn’t very well leave me here in Cornwall on my own.
I said, “Oh, thank you for your kind consideration!” We both laughed heartily and that was important, it lifted the mood and we were now both, far more relaxed. I was not going to push things and was determined to be careful and not add any further pressure. We both agreed that when the opportunity arose we would still try, but without any expectations or negative reactions from either of us, it was a verbal contract we were both happy with.
During the rest of the holiday, we found other ways to be intimate which I personally found very satisfying and interesting. Our new understanding and acceptance brought us very close, I felt this was a very special kind of relationship and wanted it to continue. I also wanted commitment and I thought commitment would benefit Colin too, as all his other relationships had been brief and fleeting with no foundation. On our journey home, we stopped off at the same tea garden for refreshments. Whilst sitting in the garden taking cream tea, I blurted out, “Colin let’s get married!” “What! Are you mad?” exclaimed Colin. “Why not?” I said. “Colin, do you think you might love me?” “Well, yes, I think I must do!” “Well, I love you too, so let’s get married!” Colin laughed, leaned over, kissed me, and said, “I accept your most romantic proposal, I would love you to be my wife, but let’s do it quietly with no pomp and ceremony”. “So that is what we did, a registry office wedding 6 weeks later and here we are, still! But not without the odd crisis, of which we will both be quite frank and open, but first, Colin will tell you about his personal history and experiences of long-term erectile dysfunction.”
To be continued…

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