Continued

Colin and Val
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Val continued…
“Colin wanted to make me understand quite clearly, that his problem with erectile dysfunction had been long term.
He reiterated the fact that his inability to perform was nothing to do with how he felt about me, and that he had never been able to complete sexual intercourse in any of his previous relationships, and that we should be realistic in accepting that there were no short-term fixes with this particular issue. He told me, that by this stage in all other previous encounters, he had taken his leave swiftly, never to return or contact the poor women again and that the only reason he was still here, was that he couldn’t very well leave me here in Cornwall on my own.
I said, “Oh, thank you for your kind consideration!” We both laughed heartily and that was important, it lifted the mood and we were now both, far more relaxed. I was not going to push things and was determined to be careful and not add any further pressure. We both agreed that when the opportunity arose we would still try, but without any expectations or negative reactions from either of us, it was a verbal contract we were both happy with.
During the rest of the holiday, we found other ways to be intimate which I personally found very satisfying and interesting. Our new understanding and acceptance brought us very close, I felt this was a very special kind of relationship and wanted it to continue. I also wanted commitment and I thought commitment would benefit Colin too, as all his other relationships had been brief and fleeting with no foundation. On our journey home, we stopped off at the same tea garden for refreshments. Whilst sitting in the garden taking cream tea, I blurted out, “Colin let’s get married!” “What! Are you mad?” exclaimed Colin. “Why not?” I said. “Colin, do you think you might love me?” “Well, yes, I think I must do!” “Well, I love you too, so let’s get married!” Colin laughed, leaned over, kissed me, and said, “I accept your most romantic proposal, I would love you to be my wife, but let’s do it quietly with no pomp and ceremony”. “So that is what we did, a registry office wedding 6 weeks later and here we are, still! But not without the odd crisis, of which we will both be quite frank and open, but first, Colin will tell you about his personal history and experiences of long-term erectile dysfunction.”
To be continued…

Colin and Val – Continuation

Colin and Val
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“I remember the cool, fresh softness of the cotton sheets and pillows against my skin as I laid on the bed, every pleasurable sensation seemed magnified ten times in my heightened mood. The thrilling sensation of my silk knickers being removed by a strong pair of hands filled me with eager anticipation. At that moment, my preference was not for a long and drawn out ritual of foreplay. I had a great urgency for strong and vigorous intercourse, as I was already full of tension and fully prepared. After about a minute or two of foreplay, I almost pleaded with Colin to penetrate me. His response seemed somewhat distant; his urgency certainly did not seem to match mine. All of a sudden, to my bewilderment, Colin got up from the bed and wrapped a towel around him. It was self evident that he did not have an erection. “Colin, what’s the matter?” I asked. I really did not understand what was happening. I jumped off the bed and got dressed very quickly. I had suddenly felt very stupid just laying there on the bed naked, not understanding what was happening. “I’m sorry, it’s my fault said Colin”. “I always have this problem”; I thought it might have been okay with you, that’s why I agreed to come. I’ve made a mistake, I’m sorry!” He looked devastated, but I was still confused. The atmosphere was awful. The awkwardness and embarrassment just filled the room. I did not know what to say or how to act, neither did Colin. Everything I had believed, hoped for and planned, had been just a stupid, romantic illusion and I had just been introduced to the stark realities of life in an instant.
This was our first night, how will we see the rest of the week out in this awfully depressing atmosphere? If we went home, that would start a whole raft of questions from everyone wanting to know what happened. What could I say to satisfy people’s natural curiosity? This was a very personal matter and I would naturally want to protect mine and Colin’s privacy. When it hit home just how shaken, depressed and dejected Colin looked, I realized that I was only thinking of the impact on me. How selfish of me. “I’ll put the kettle on,” I said. “Colin come on, let’s talk, I want to understand everything, please talk to me.” We stayed up all night talking over how we both felt, and about Colin’s experiences leading up to tonight.
I could sense that Colin was looking for an exit. I felt panicked by that, I did not want to lose him. I was the happiest I have ever been these past few months, and we weren’t having sex all that time, surely we could work things out? We both agreed to stay at the cottage for the rest of the week and talk things through and to try and enjoy the rest of the holiday. I desperately needed to understand what the problem was and how Colin’s inability to function had caused such a horribly depressing atmosphere to engulf us so. “We need some perspective,” I told Colin, “How many couples do this happen to”? We are certainly not the first couple this has happened to, you are not the only man in the world with this problem, let’s solve it”!
To be continued…

Colin and Val…Continued

Colin and Val…Continued
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“The perfect opportunity presented itself when my sister informed me that a vacant week was available at the end of July at her investment cottage in Cornwall. I knew Colin loved Cornwall and that we were both due time off work. I rang Colin and asked if he was interested, “Yes indeed!” he replied. I was ecstatic. I was in my element at the dept stores, spending a small fortune on the sexiest silk underwear and negligé. My life just seemed so perfect; I felt I was the luckiest woman in the world! The morning of our departure arrived, it was a beautiful morning and the weather forecast told us to expect fine and sunny weather for the rest of the week, perfect timing. We set off for the 220 mile and 4 hour trip, stopping off for a cream tea at a lovely tea garden with manicured lawns and the sweet scent of roses and honeysuckle in the gentle summer breeze. Life could not get better than this; it was one of those magical moments you remember and cherish for the rest of your life.
Arriving at the thatched and whitewashed cottage, we could hear the tumblers and smell the fresh sea air from the North Atlantic Ocean. It was such a romantic setting for the first time we had really been together on our own.
We unpacked, showered, changed into our holiday garb and went out to explore the towns and villages of Cornwall. We got back to the cottage at around 8:30 in the evening; it had been a fantastic day, taking in the sights, sounds and unique ambience of this gorgeous part of the English West Country. As I showered again, I was full of excitement and expectation of a wonderfully romantic night with the most gorgeous man in the world. Whilst Colin showered, I changed into my new silk undies and negligé, they felt so sensuous, I felt really sexy. Colin came into the lounge with only a towel wrap; he stopped dead in his tracks.
“WOW! You look amazing! I could eat you”, he said. He kissed me on the neck and held my waist, I could feel his full approval and enthusiasm through his towel, I was weak at the knees, swooning! Colin went to get the wine from the chiller. “Let’s drink it in bed”, I said, not quite believing my boldness. In the bedroom, Colin poured the wine, whilst I slipped off my negligé, revealing my new and very skimpy pure silk underwear. Colin looked at me and said, “Oh my God, come here! He began kissing my breasts then rubbing both my legs and thighs, slipping his hands under my knickers and gently squeezing my buttocks. I had never been this ready for sex in all my life”… To be continued

Colin and Val (Almost a decade to consummate their marriage)

Vicky meets Colin and Val. Continued
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Colin and Val have been married 18yrs; they are a very fit, smart and attractive couple. They are now enjoying the happiest time of their married life after years of angst. What caused their anxiety? Colin had always suffered erectile dysfunction, even as a young man relationships were always fraught out of fear of sexual intimacy. Val said “I had a number of boyfriends before meeting Colin, so I knew this wasn’t the usual run of things. We were compatible in every other way, except for this darned problem. I thought it would resolve in time, I put it down to nervousness at first, but the months passed and the situation was not improving”.
Val went on to tell me how she had met Colin at her best friend’s wedding in 1989. “For me it was instant attraction, even though I was in a relationship at the time. I was trying not to be too obvious, but our glances kept meeting throughout the day, I was just so aware of his every movement, his voice and manly laugh. The next time I looked around he was gone. He wasn’t staying for the evening, I was gutted! It was some weeks later that we met again at the towns’ rugby club where I was invited to take part at a presentation. I was both surprised and thrilled when Colin asked me out to dinner the next evening, I accepted straight away, even though I had been courting steadily for almost 2yrs. The next evening Colin arrived at my parent’s home to my mother’s dismay, as she liked my fiancé very much and I had not informed mother that someone else had arrived on the scene. Colin and I hit it off from the word go, we shared the same sense of humour, he was interesting, intelligent and a great listener, I was completely smitten. When I arrived home, mother knew immediately that I was on cloud nine. After this, I had to announce to my fiancé that things had changed and that I needed space to gather my thoughts and emotions. I hated myself, but for the first time I felt that unmistakable spark that I had met someone I really wanted to be with. Colin and I saw each other every day; I would miss him after just a few hours. He was so romantic, thoughtful, caring and very affectionate. When we were alone we would kiss and caress quite passionately, but things never seemed to progress beyond that, I took it to be his gentlemanly and respectful nature, but we were a couple of months in now, and I wanted more! Maybe I should make the first move”?
To be continued…

Male sexual dysfunction in unconsummated marriage: long-term outcome in 417 patients.
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Sexual Intercourse

G-Spot

Women have two primary erogenous zones for sexual stimulation; the clitoris and the G-spot. The G-spot is a collection of highly sensitive nerve endings, first described in 1944 by German Gynaecologist Ernst Graffenberg. This highly erogenous zone is located near the front wall of the vagina. (See diagram) The area has a more thickened and rougher texture compared with the smooth lining of the vaginal wall. To sufficiently make contact with and stimulate this area of the anteria vaginal wall during sexual intercourse, the penis needs to be very firm and rigid. A weaker erection would be quite unable to afford sufficient contact and stimulation.
The G-spot area is strongly associated with the phenomenon of intense orgasm and “female ejaculation”. Recent studies by an Italian team of Scientists at the University of L’Aquila have discovered that the tissue around the “G-spot” is almost identical to that of the male prostate gland, the G-spot is now increasingly being referred to as the “Female prostate”.

Female-Ejaculation

Prostate Gland

Likewise, the male prostate gland is a highly erogenous zone. Some men, mostly “bottom” partners here have described a very intense and prolonged orgasm which is quite specific and unique. The term “prostate milking” here has now entered the vernacular.

Next…

Vicky meets Colin and Val.
© Vicky Laney
Colin and Val have been married 18yrs; they are a very fit, smart and attractive couple. They are now enjoying the happiest time of their married life after years of angst. What caused their anxiety? Colin has always suffered erectile dysfunction, even as a young man, relationships were always fraught out of fear of sexual intimacy. Val said “I had a number of boyfriends before meeting Colin, so I knew this wasn’t the usual run of things. We were compatible in every other way, except for this darned problem. I thought it would resolve in time, I put it down to nervousness”. To be continued…

Erectile Dysfunction… continued

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is the inability to achieve and maintain an erection that is sufficient for satisfactory sexual intercourse.  ED is also known as impotence.  ED is a very common condition, it is estimated that half of all men by the age of forty will already be experiencing difficulties.

Evidence suggests that ED also affects young men, particularly around performance anxiety.

ED can have a range of causes, both physical and psychological, possible physical causes include:

• Diabetes
• Heart Disease
• High Blood Pressure (Hypertension)
• Hormonal Problems

Possible Psychological causes include:

• Stress
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Relationship problems

Sometimes ED can be the result of more serious underlying health conditions, which is why you really shouldn’t feel embarrassed to check this out with your Doctor.  You will not be the only one in the waiting room with this problem, your Doctor will have consulted on this issue many times during the week.  After a medical examination and a study of your medical history, you will very probably be offered a prescription for viagra.
The drug Sildenafil known as (Viagra) has become a very popular and many say very effective remedy for ED and is also commonly used recreationally, there are a number of contraindications that would preclude certain health conditions and the use of certain medications, particularly nitrates, it would be inadvisable indeed to obtain viagra type drugs other than through your own doctor, who will be familiar with your medical history.

Mechanism:

In order to achieve an erection, a number of functions must work together.  Firstly, the brain sends chemical and electrical messages of sexual arousal through the nervous system to the penis.  The specific part of the brain which activates the process is the Cerebral Cortex, initiated by stimuli from visual, tactile, or imagined stimuli, impulses are sent via the nervous system sending messages around the genital area releasing nitric oxide.  Nitric Oxide is a chemical compound which travels from cell to cell, dilating arteries which supply the penis with blood.

The two sponge like tissues (Corpora Cavernosa) become engorged with blood just as an hydraulic system expanding and inflating the penis.  Once this is accomplished, the arteries contract to prevent the blood from draining back, the whole process is controlled by the autonomic nervous system.

Once stimulation ceases, the arteries constrict, forcing blood out of the penis.

 

 

 

Main Causes:

The main physical cause of ED is vascular, where blood flow is restricted or unable to stay in the penis and then there are emotional causes that alter moods, which interfere with the process.  These can be depression, anxiety, stress and relationship problems.  To determine if the cause is physical or emotional, one can ask oneself the following:

• Is an erection achieved and maintained during masturbation?
• Is one aware of an erection during sleep or on waking?

If the answer is in the affirmative, then we can say, normal physical function is present and can assume the dysfunction has an emotional source.  Whatever the cause, erectile dysfunction can be quite devastating for the individual and relationships and must not be ignored.
The medical profession should be the first port of call.

Coming next -

Impossible to stimulate your partners G-spot or Prostate gland with a less than firm and rigid erection.

Natural alternatives to viagra:
Glyco nutrients, Incredible Ayurvedic Technique .   

Erectile Dysfunction!

Is there a natural, [more effective] and safer alternative to Viagra?  Why a less than firm and rigid erection, cannot confer sexual satisfaction to the recipient male or female partner!

What proven nutrients and techniques are available?  Why are they not common knowledge?

We will discuss this next…

A Great and Natural Remedy for Halitosis (Bad Breath)

Water Kefir contains a whole host of friendly and beneficial flora and fauna, such as Lactobacillus brevis, Lactobacillus alactosus, Candida lambica, Candida valida and many more health enhancing probiotics and enzymes.  It’s simple to make at home and will cost literally pennies per litre.

The benefits for gut and overall health benefits are well documented.  Use water Kefir as a vigorous mouthwash, gargle and drink daily, this is a great and highly effective remedy for the offensive odours of Halitosis  http://welshvillagehealth.wordpress.com/kefir-information 

Another great remedy is to steep coarsely cut parsley and 2 or 3 cloves, with half a teaspoon of baking soda into 500ml pitcher/jug of hot water, allow to steep for a few hours and strain, use this as a vigorous mouthwash gargle and also sip and swallow.  Better results than anything sold on the market!  Do this daily and you can be confident that your breath is clean and clear of foul odours.

Halitosis (Bad Breath) Holding You Back?

Are you aware that bad breath can be socially and professionally devastating?  Very few friends, colleagues or customers will tell you to your face that you have offensive breath,  but they will certainly be quick to tell others!  Everybody from time to time suffers from periods of bad breath, due to certain foods and beverages, but persistent and foul breath can be a sign of gut, nasal or dental problems.

The fresh breath industry i.e. gum, mints, mouthwash, is a billions of dollars industry which rely on repeat and habitual purchase with no real or permanent benefit to the sufferer.  We will presently discuss more natural, far more effective and permanent solutions to this very common and potentially damaging malady, in terms of  social and professional acceptance.

Just as an exercise, try this:

Lick the back of your wrist from the middle to back of tongue.  Leave a second or two to evaporate, then smell your wrist. 

This will give a slight indication of what friends, colleagues and customers could be picking up during close conversation. 

But don’t worry, there exists very natural, safe and highly effective methods to neutralize the foul odours of halitosis, so you can have all the confidence in the world when you get up close and personal.

We will discuss this in more detail soon!

Article Review

Article By Vicky Laney

Article Review By Vicky Laney Eczema Cure? “The Margaret Yvonne Eczema Plan”

By Vicky Laney

A natural alternative for the treatment and management of Eczema and inflammatory skin conditions. There is no cure for eczema! This flat, bland and comprehensively negative statement from Dermatologists and undoubtedly well meaning Support Groups echoed in the ears of Margaret Yvonne. Chronic and severe eczema impacts on every area of life; physical, emotional, social and economic. So, the blanket statement “there is no cure for eczema” is a devastating prognosis for any severe sufferer of this most relentless and recurring skin condition. Eczema is still a very misunderstood dermatological condition. So many variations and forms of presentation exist from individual to individual. Atopic Dermatitis is a form of eczema associated with allergy and sensitization to an antigen, a substance as a toxin or enzyme that stimulates an immune response in the body, especially antibodies and histamine. Contact dermatitis or Irritant dermatitis is another form of eczema. Contact dermatitis is a localized rash or irritation of the skin caused by contact with an irritant. Known sensitizers and irritants will cause eczema — dermatitis in almost everyone if contact is prolonged or exposed to high concentrations of irritants. If the sufferer of contact dermatitis or eczema can successfully identify and avoid the irritant, then the condition will resolve. What is understood about eczema is that family genetics and environmental factors are the main drivers for the condition, which can be chronic and severe, requiring medical intervention for management and control, usually with antihistamine, corticosteroid topical ointments, oral steroids and emollients. Margaret Yvonne was such a sufferer, regularly requiring all of the above medical interventions. Of course, the steroids and antihistamine were certainly not a cure. Steroids simply suppress the immune system response and thus the symptoms. It was the realization that the regular suppression of the immune system over time, carried its own and potentially very serious health risks, that Margaret Yvonne embarked on her own quest to investigate alternative methods of controlling her severe eczema. She made a determined and concerted effort to educate herself with regard to the myriad of chemical additives and formulations of everyday household, personal hygiene and cosmetic products. She was alarmed indeed to learn that most of these products contained known laboratory sensitizers, substances used in controlled trials to deliberately induce skin reactions for scientific and medical studies. Also, many shampoos, body washes and shower gels contained the same chemicals used in powerful de-greasers for garage floors and grease cutting in industrial applications, albeit in lower concentrations. She also discovered that even world renowned beauty outlets which we associate with “Natural” & “Ethical” body products, were concealing the more dubious chemical additive formulation ingredients underneath labels which depicted the more romantic, natural and positive images and representations of the products. It was through very selective choices of more natural, organic and compatible products that Margaret Yvonne says “I was able to negate the worst of the eczema flares and was able to extend quite markedly the periods between them”. She urges consumers everywhere to “be vigilant in these very important matters and to make informed choices through diligent study of the subject”. In her efforts to alleviate inflammation, redness, cracked skin and intolerably intense pruritus (itchiness), Margaret Yvonne found that certain naturally occurring and nutrient dense substances, when applied topically as balms and unction’s, also ingested as part of a healthy and nutritious diet, an “inside — outside” approach, would most effectively relieve pruritus and inflammation. After just a couple of weeks of this new and natural regimen, her skin began to feel and look quite normal. She said, “I did not get this good on steroids”! Weeks turned into months without any eczema flares at all, or urticaria from which she also intermittently suffered. It is over three years now, since Margaret Yvonne has experienced any of the symptoms of eczema or hives (urticaria), the longest period of relief she has ever known. “My skin is clear, save for some slight permanent scarring and pigmentation from the damage of rubbing and scratching over many years, but my skin is settled and unreactive. I could not have hoped or dreamed of such an improvement”! So, I asked the questions, is this regimen or plan a cure for eczema? Are you cured from chronic and severe eczema? She replied, “for every day I am free of the distressing symptoms of eczema, that day is a cure day”. “Today, I am cured of eczema! The plan I have used is a combination of avoidance of irritants and sensitizers and nutrient dense substances prepared at home that I firmly believe to have strengthened and normalized my immune system response, affording me the relief I enjoy today. There simply is no other reason how after all these years I should become free of the symptoms of eczema and urticaria, directly following my plan”! Margaret Yvonne tells of her experiences with chronic and severe eczema and urticaria in her Instant Download eBook, Eczema — Dermatitis and Hives DIY Remedy. She describes her personal battle with skin disease along with graphic photographic images of her condition and how she is today. She reveals the nutrient dense and naturally occurring food standard substances and the preparation into balms and unction’s for topical application along with recipe ideas for ingestion as nutrient rich supplements to a healthy diet. The regimen featured in her eBook has become widely known as “The Margaret Yvonne Eczema Plan”. All the naturally occurring substances recommended by Margaret Yvonne have been recognized universally as high nutrient density, of which many components are missing from the modern western diet, but considered valuable and beneficial by nutritionists and health commentators. As for me, I too have suffered contact dermatitis. A particularly troublesome and painful area was my toes and feet. The inflammation and itchiness would drive me to distraction. Margaret Yvonne told me I was very probably reacting to something in the tanning process of the leather or dye. She handed me a small pot of balm which I rubbed into my toes and feet. Within minutes I had no sensation of itch or irritation. By the next morning, there were no signs of blemish to be seen. I certainly am not qualified to even begin to explain it; I only report the unequivocal fact.

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